A Private Investigator Tells About 4 Clear Signs That Your Husband Is Cheating on You

David King, the managing director of Lipstick Investigations, told about the most popular signs of cheating husbands. According to him, women who come to private investigators are right in 80% of all cases. This is because they can spot details that their husbands don’t care about.

Sign #1

The first and most prominent sign is when your husband or boyfriend starts caring about himself much more than he used to: he has a new cologne, a new haircut, a new clothing style. If you feel that he doesn’t want to spend a lot of time with you, then it’s very likely that your husband is cheating on you.

Sign #2

If a man sets a password on his smartphone, his tablet, or his computer without any good reason, it might be a worrying sign. Well, of course, if you unceremoniously look through his folders and monitor all his calls, then there is probably nothing strange about setting a password. He just needs some private space.

However, if your relationship was full of trust and then he set passwords on all of his devices, he probably has something to hide.

Sign #3

The next behavior of someone who cheats is anger and aggression. Every time his phone rings, he gets up and leaves the room to talk on the phone. Every question you ask, even the simplest one, can lead to an argument. It looks like he wants a reason for a conflict. And after you talk about it, he leaves the apartment to “get some fresh air.”

In fact, in this situation, a man is trying to stop feeling guilty. He is trying to justify his actions by blaming you.

Sign #4

The last sign that your man is unfaithful is his wish to leave home without you. If your husband used to invite you to the movies and restaurants or suggested meeting with friends or going out of town but now he is looking for a reason to go somewhere without you, it’s a worrying signal.

The same goes for situations where your husband used to like being home and now has regular meetings with someone. It’s very likely that your husband has found someone new, and you don’t know about it yet.

An important thing you must remember:

Separately, these signals might not mean anything. However, if you notice a few of them, you shouldn’t ignore them. Do you think we should add something else to the list?

Via: BrightSide

7 Signs That You’re Destroying Your Relationship

When something goes wrong in our relationships, we tend to blame our partner. But it takes two to build them, and it’s impossible for just one half to always be guilty of everything.

We at Bright Side think you should take note of these 7 signs that something’s not right in your relationship. So the one destroying it is you, if…

You’re addicted to gadgets

If you spend most of your free time on your smartphone, it can be an addiction, and one that is harmful to your relationship, as found by scientists from the University of Arizona. Try switching to something else, like reading a book or making plans. Use special apps to control your time on the Web (such as Rescue Time).

You’re unable to set priorities

If you have a really busy schedule that doesn’t include a personal life, just set it as important on your list of priorities. You can use special planning apps too, like Any.do (iOS, Android).

There’s also the 2/2/2 method that’ll help save romance: go on a date with your loved one once every 2 weeks, go somewhere for a weekend once every 2 months, and go on vacation together every 2 years.

You don’t show support

A simple “thank you” seems so trivial that many forget to say it altogether. However, if your loved one does something for you, don’t take it for granted. Everyone needs a kind word, so thank your partner for simple things, and do it regularly.

You talk formally

Loving people talk to each other openly and sincerely. Share your emotions and details of your day, and listen to each other. Think of nontrivial questions. Instead of “How was your day?“ try ”What was the most interesting part of today?“ or “What made you laugh today?”

If something about your partner upsets you, say it without reproach using ”me“-messages. It’s not ”Don’t you dare say that!” It’s “Your words upset me.”

You get angry at trifles

Don’t try to remake your loved one. Their peculiar features are what you love them for. Better make them see the results of their actions for themselves. If your husband scatters his socks everywhere, tell him they’ll only get into the laundry from a particular place. When he runs out of socks, no words will be necessary.

You’re unable to negotiate

Concentrate on solving problems together. Try to discuss the problem before it reaches boiling point. When you’re having an important talk, touch your partner to make them comfortable. And remember the rule of one problem, one talk.

During a fight, leave the room, even just for half a minute. When you’ve calmed down a bit, the talk will become more productive.

You have no trust

If you want a warm and close relationship, learn to believe your loved one is honest with you. Don’t demand reports of where they’ve been without you, and don’t look through their phone and email. Unjustified suspicion might make your partner feel compelled to do what they’re being suspected of. Concentrate on the good.

Via: BrightSide

 

 

15 Extremely Weird Things All Couples in Long-Term Relationships Do

A long term relationship can be a great thing. You get to share every moment with another person you love. They are there to comfort you through the bad, celebrate with you through the good and, everything in between. It teaches you the meaning of true love as you learn every side of the other person and share your life with them. It additionally teaches you trust as you let your partner see every side of you.

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Helping your partner out becomes the first priority and what you consider to be unthinkably disgusting with anyone else is something you’re happy to do for your partner. Like for instance popping each other’s pimples. Even the thought of popping an acquaintance’s pimple makes me squirm.

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You two quickly develop the weirdest nicknames for each other. You’ve got the standard cute, lovey dovey nicknames but it’s not just those kind of nicknames. You get the mean nicknames that are somehow amazingly endearing more because of who said the name rather than the name itself.

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As you spend all that time with your significant other eventually you’re going to let slip some smelly, and noisy gases in the company of your partner. Luckily, this isn’t an issue for you and your partner. It’s just natural bodily functions and you two get that about each other.

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One of the perks of getting totally comfortable being yourself around another person is that it means dancing like there’s nobody around becomes dancing like it’s just you and your partner. And the best part is that they join in with their crazy dance moves.

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First thing in the morning breath can be a pretty strong. However, it doesn’t put either of you off a morning kiss. That’s because there is nothing in the world that beats starting you day with a big kiss first thing in the morning.

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Showers are great. There’s no arguing it. They are warm and comforting, and energising at the same time. Not to mention nothing beats that clean feeling and fragrant smell. But showering with your partner brings it to a new level. It saves time, water, and it’s just simply more convenient and enjoyable.

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A relationship makes you lazy. You feel so comfortable and happy relaxing in each other’s company that the time you spend out tends to decrease drastically. But eventually one, or both, of you crave getting out together more. Often only to miss staying at home together.

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In every relationship there are fights, and they can be healthy. They help for you two to establish with each other the things that are really important to you even if you and your partner disagree. But still, you can’t go long without their company.

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A man’s jumper’s, and other clothes, ownership seems to come into question. It always seems to turn out that your girlfriend is wearing your jumper or boxers. But to balance it out for you they look so sexy and cute that it’s more endearing than annoying.

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It’s not like going out to dinner with your family. You don’t always have to be on your best behaviour and have your best manners about you. Because your partner knows you so well and still loves you can let your guard down and those little bad habits of yours aren’t a problem.

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Weekends become about relaxing and making up for all that time you and your partner had to be apart during the week. Between work and studies during the week you can miss out on a lot of time together. But it’s nothing a weekend of tv shows and popcorn together can’t fix.

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When making plans in your lives the filter that all your decision making goes through gets an extra layer. And it very possibly becomes the most important layer. This is the ‘We’ layer. You start asking yourself questions “does this work for both of us?” before making decisions.

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Simultaneously your sleeping schedule tends to sync up and you guys get invited to the same events. This is because every couple wants to go to sleep at the same time, and a missing partner in the morning is noticed. Also, your friend circles merge.

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If you two get a pet together they become more like a child than simply a pet. There’s also something hugely amusing to both of you to do voice overs for your new baby. They can’t talk, but they are so expressive they just need a voice.

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Good news! A long term relationship gives you super powers too. You get telepathy, well a limited version of telepathy. You can your partner can read each other’s minds with just a simple exchange of meaningful looks. Great for getting out of parties.

Via: CultureHook

Signs He’s Only With You For The Sex

The dating world is and always will be confusing.  It’s difficult to understand intentions, flirting techniques, emotions, and intentions—only mentioned again because it’s so important—especially when your partner is only interested in one thing: getting laid.  How do you navigate a “relationship” if he’s only with you for the nookie?  Here are 15 telling signs he’s only with you for the sex. Are there any signs we missed? Let us know in the comments!

No cuddling allowed. If he’s quick to run to the bathroom or roll over to the other side of the bed after doing the dirty deed, then he’s avoiding intimacy. Cuddling is a great and relaxing way to just be with someone, with no one expecting any monkey business. But he’s not interested in anything but monkey business. He’s a monkey!

He makes sure you don’t leave anything at his house. Men know the game, or at least they think they do. They don’t want women leaving a hairbrush or a bottle of conditioner in the bathroom because that means you might be back someday with an intention other than sleeping with him.

He throws out the stuff you do leave at his house. If you somehow manage to get through his security system of not leaving things in his room, then he’s definitely going to throw your stuff out before you return. “What shampoo bottle?” he’ll ask, playing dumb. He knows damn well what shampoo bottle.

You never meet his friends. There’s a reason why you haven’t met or even heard of his friends—because once you meet them it becomes “serious.”

He only texts after 1 a.m. Even if he texted a little after midnight, he might be in the clear, but 1 a.m. is a designated “Let’s fall asleep together” time.

He becomes upset when you actually want to “Netflix and chill.” Putting aside two full hours of hanging out just to watch some movie you chose? What?!

He’s always trying to get into your pants. If he takes every single opportunity to participate in his favorite activity, sexual intercourse, then he’s only interested in his favorite activity.

You never sleep over at his place. Assuming you’ve ever been to his place, you definitely haven’t slept over if it’s he’s just with you for the dirty deed. His roommates might see you! His parents might call you “sweetie!” His secret wife and five children might be confused by your presence!

He only compliments the way you look. You’re more than just a clothes rack, you know. If he’s always talking about how great you look in those pants, or how nice your hair is, then it’s very possible that he doesn’t care about anything but that stuff.

He’s always “busy” when you text him something serious. If he’s always conveniently busy or “too tired to talk” then he’s doing his best to ignore your feelings without seeming like he’s ignoring his feelings.

You’ve never been on a real date. If he considers you his boyfriend, then he’d take you out somewhere. Ordering pizza doesn’t count, and neither does Chinese food, unfortunately.

Every conversation gets flirty and/or sexual. It’s his form of getting into your pants when he’s forced to actually talk to you. When a texting conversation suddenly gets a “So what are you wearing?” then, well…

He doesn’t really care about anything you suggest. If this is true, then lose him even if he does consider himself your boyfriend!

Foreplay doesn’t exist to him. He comes over, you greet each other, and then it’s off to the bedroom to do the thing he wants the most. Nothing romantic, not even a touch or kiss in an intimate area, no. He just wants what’s in-between your legs.

He asks you to meet up with him, only for you two to leave once you arrive. In order to trick you, he asked you to come out and meet up with him at some bar. But once you get there, you realize he’s closing his bill out and was just looking for someone to go home with, not to hang out with. And you got dressed for nothing!

 

The ONLY question to ask your boyfriend to know if he’s serious

Misled, misunderstood, misinterpreted – not the kind of things you want to hear when you get serious about someone and expect the same kind of commitment from them but these are the words they say.
In such situations, we often blame the guy for misleading us.

The whole I-loved-him-but-he-couldn’t-love–me-back phase hits us. We are so over-consumed by our own thoughts of the rejection we have received that we are unable to see the whole situation as an unbiased third party. Now, I know it is easier said than done but that’s the challenge of every relationship in our lives. We have got to see things from the other person’s point of view.

 

No one person can be entirely correct and the other a 100% wrong. They can’t really mislead you if you, yourself, want to be misled in a certain direction because that’s actually what you really want from them.
I know what it is like because I have faced that, a relationship I gave my everything to ended on a phone call.

A two minute long call and that was it, it was the end of a 3 year old long relationship. Where you might be thinking he broke up with me, it was actually the other way round and here is why.

I had been treated badly for a long time, there were moments of laughter and happiness too but they only lasted for a few seconds. We would fight over the weirdest things. I had always been the kind who would never scream, couldn’t even utter a simple ‘shut up’ or a ‘leave me alone’. I kept on compromising till I couldn’t bend. He kept on asking me to change from the way I talked to the kind of music I liked, from the way I managed my work to the kind of shows I watched. I tried as much as I could but obviously couldn’t match his expectations. Then one day, I found out he was cheating on me with multiple women. I didn’t shed a tear over him but a huge realization hit me. The way he was treating me, they were all tell signs of what I meant to him, what this relationship meant to him. I didn’t want to acknowledge those tell signs so I turned a blind eye towards them all and chose to suffer!

I realized it wasn’t him, it was me who chose to be treated like that and from then on I have decided on one thing – get things straight before you get too serious. Ask them this one simple question and you’ll know.

Question: WHERE DO YOU SEE US GOING?

This is the only question, the answer will solve any confusion that you have regarding the relationship. The key is to look beyond what he says, it is to look deep into his nature and his reaction to the question.
Remember, both are not too good for you, if he replies over enthusiastically or if he is too unsure about the future.

People who make great promises and fail to deliver are the kind that will make you feel misled, their over-enthusiasm will make you think they are in it for life where actually, their answer was solely based on the way they felt about you there and then. There and then, when the relationship is in its initial honeymoon phase. Such people can’t really look towards their future. They will promise you the moon and the stars but won’t be able to deliver even a simple thing for you from the mart!

Slap yourself out of the illusion they create and the delusion you create for yourself. Someone who is too unsure might still have greater chances to get serious in the relationship, relatively. For someone unsure, you can’t really blame them when they call it quits because they never committed themselves, remember? So why put yourself in an uncertain situation where you have no idea if you will be single the next day or not?

Most importantly, what are the vibes that you get from this person, look beyond his words. What has he been like in his past relationships, do you see a common trend? Trust me, your brain screams at you when it warns you of the tornado that’s about to hit you.

Listen to your head and feel what your heart tells you, keep a balance of both and you will know instantly if he is in it as seriously as you are.

Via: RealTalk

If You Have These 8 Things In Common, You’ve Probably Found Your Soulmate

Despite how romantic it seems, I have to admit that I’ve never been a huge believer in the traditional definition of a soulmate: I just don’t agree with the notion that there’s exactly one other person floating around out there who exists to “complete” me. However, the concept of a soulmate as someone (or many someones) who fulfills me, helps me grow as a person, and shares an intense connection with me? That I can get behind. Although I believe there are many people who could potentially be “soulmate material” for me, that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with having a more romantic, traditional view of what being soulmates means. No matter your definition of the word, though, you’re probably wondering: How can you tell if you’ve found your soulmate?

“Soulmates are something you can become through work, ongoing communication, clear expression of needs, negotiation, and commitment — you’ll never find a soulmate,” Astroglide’s Resident Sexologist, Dr. Jess, tells Bustle. “Relationships don’t work out because you’re ‘meant to be’; you can choose to make a relationship work or not work. This choice/agency is empowering and lays the groundwork for a much healthier relationship than so-called fate.”

Sure, it’s possible to feel an immediate spark and then develop an intense connection with someone, but making a relationship last long-term takes a lot of effort beyond those initial lovey-dovey feelings. Nonetheless, there are certain things that a couple with long-term, soulmate-level potential might have in common — here are eight things to be on the lookout for in a partner.

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No relationship is perfect, and we all make mistakes from time to time. A soulmate-tier partnership doesn’t mean that you’ll never argue or disagree — it simply means that when you do fight, you’ll both be willing and able to admit your mistakes and solve the problem in a mature, communicative way.

“Soulmates are able to admit when they’re wrong or made a mistake, Bregman says. “The most successful, dynamic couples have no difficulty admitting when they were wrong and fell short of treating their significant other properly. Whereas most of the world and its relationships often boil down to people taking a defensive posture and protecting their fragile egos, when you’re with your soulmate, you can pursue the truth and admit mistakes freely.”

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter if you think there’s just one person out there for you or whether you believe that we each have many soulmates depending on the time and circumstance. If you feel a deep connection with someone and you have these important things in common, you have the power to make your relationship last a lifetime.

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In any relationship, being your most authentic self is key to making it last. If one person is totally open and vulnerable while the other is holding something back and not being completely honest, the potential to truly connect in a soulmate-like way will be lost.

“Soulmates can be their most honest, ‘real’ selves around each other,” Bregman says. “Whereas many people go through life holding back major pieces of themselves from everyone else, and only sharing what they want seen… when you find your soulmate, they really can ‘see’ you. Moreover, you will feel comfortable to be yourself and feel accepted and loved, without any pretense.”

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Don’t get me wrong, it’s absolutely possible to have a “soulmate” with whom you disagree on matters like religion and politics. But if you and your partner’s core values and worldviews align when it comes to such important topics, your connection will feel even stronger — because you’ll both just “get” each other on a deep, personal level. If you disagree on these topics, it’s crucial that you still respect each other’s opinions, and can come to a compromise.

“If neither party agrees to compromise, the relationship simply might not be a good fit, because it could be holding each partner back from living the life that is best suited for them,” Kali Rogers, founder of Blush Online Life Coaching, tells Bustle. “Core values are simply nonnegotiable.”

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If you’re unfamiliar, the five Love Languages — Quality Time, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, and Receiving Gifts — represent how we each feel most loved and valued by a partner. Couples who have similar Love Languages might feel a soulmate-like connection, simply because they find it easier and more natural to express their love for each other because they give and receive affection in similar ways. But that doesn’t mean you’re doomed if you and your partner have totally opposite Love Languages; just remember to keep your partner’s Love Language in mind any time you want to show them how much you care.

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It’s OK if you’re more of a spender while your partner prefers to save — what matters is that you’re able to openly communicate about your finances and budget, and come to a mutual agreement that you both stick to.

“Good communication is the key to any successful relationship and when it comes to money — ignorance is not bliss,” Megan Speeth, vice president of Fidelity Investments, tells Bustle. “Couples don’t always agree about money, but it’s important to have open and honest conversations with each other. Make it a priority to communicate openly, work as a team and develop a plan. This plan should help guide your financial choices, manage your expenses and investments, and finally keep you on track to reach your short and long-term goals.”

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If you’re with someone who has soulmate potential, the two of you will be on the same page when it comes to major life decisions, such as when/if you should get married, how many kids you want, and where you want to settle down someday.

“Soulmates will have a basic, shared vision for their future,” Shlomo Zalman Bregman, rabbi and matchmaker, tells Bustle. “It’s vital that a couple share a basic, overall picture of how they’d like for their lives to unfold — financially, children, spiritually, lifestyle, contribution to the world, etc. When this is in place, it serves as an irreplaceable ‘true north’ and helps clarify what each partner should be working towards daily, as well as helping the couple clarify how to make some of the tougher decisions in life.”

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It’s always nice to have the same hobbies as your partner, but sharing a love of cycling isn’t nearly as important as having a genuine curiosity and interest in your partner’s passions — even (and perhaps especially) when it comes to the hobbies you don’t have in common.

“It can be common to have similar interests but moreso, having a sense of curiosity and feeling intrigued towards one another [is important],” Cole says. “Even if you have separate interests, if you appreciate your partner’s passions and want to learn more about their passions from them, that is important. You don’t want to stop learning about your partner and what makes them ‘tick’. Even the person’s imperfections you learn to adore rather than becoming annoyed by them.”

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Being able to laugh with your partner is one of the most crucial components of a healthy, lasting relationship. Whether you share a dry, morbid sense of humor or you’re both total goofballs, a partner with soulmate potential will be someone with whom you can act silly and spend lots of time laughing together.

“If one person is more serious and the other is silly, it will not be the same connection as if both can be silly and laugh at life,” Carolyn Cole, Licensed Psychotherapist and Relationship Expert, tells Bustle. “A soulmate connection… usually [means that a couple can] be silly and playful together.”

Via:WavySauce

 

10 Kinds of Men Women REALLY Like

There’s one question all men of the world are trying to answer. It sounds like this: What do women really want? Despite the popular belief, it’s possible to find quite a simple answer to this eternal question.

The female part of Bright Side finally decided to dot the i’s and cross the t’s and made a list of 10 things we expect from men. Guys, take note!

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This doesn’t mean you should spend every weekend in a new country. This doesn’t mean every night a brass band should play under her window. Even a tub filled with champagne is likely to be superfluous. Show spontaneity in the small things. Invite her to a dance during a walk, or write an unexpected text. Girls like to guess what will happen next.

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When she says “no,“ she doesn’t mean ”no.“ However, she also doesn’t mean “yes” or ”maybe.“ Sometimes a woman’s words don’t mean anything at all. Yet not because they don’t understand what they want — quite the opposite. What they want is a man who will show persistence and prove that ”yes!” is the only possible answer to his offer.

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Any woman is ready to become the most devoted fan or even a whole support group for her beloved. Therefore, she absolutely has the right to wait for the same attitude in return. Whatever a woman does, it’s important to show a sincere interest in her life. Does she dream of becoming an actress? Starting her own business? Running a marathon? Her chances of achieving the goal will double if you take the rule of repeating one single phrase: “I believe in you.”

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If you really think girls only need diamonds, expensive jewelry, and trips to the end of the world, quickly throw this garbage out of your head. A small yet thoughtful gift will make a woman’s heart beat faster. Just listen carefully to what she says. Sooner or later you’ll find out that she loves violets in pots, has been dreaming of a toy piano since childhood, or is crazy about the books of some writer. Now you know what to do.

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Some wit probably once joked that girls like serious guys. And those men deprived of a sense of humor believed it. Yet even scientists have proved that laughter is one of the strongest natural aphrodisiacs. So joke more often, but remember there are things you shouldn’t joke about. For example, her dress, hairstyle, or family.

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Just don’t go too far. Don’t pursue her, don’t call her 100 times a day, and don’t send a million emails. A few simple and sincere questions will let her know you really care. Don’t forget to ask how her day was, how she’s feeling, what she wants, and what she’s thinking about. Women need such questions as air.

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Psychologists claim that a man and a woman as a couple resemble two connecting vessels. If one of them is filled with positivity, the same will soon happen to the other. A stable good mood is one of the best gifts a man can give to a woman. Just smile more often, share bright emotions with her, and the result won’t keep you waiting.

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Of course, sometimes we have a difficult day when we want to give up everything, bury our face in a pillow, and cry for the whole day. Yet science says that women are much more emotional by nature and experience sadness, melancholy, or depression more often than men. That’s why they want someone at such moments who can be a shoulder to cry on and promise that everything will be fine.

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It would seem so obvious that it’s not even worth mentioning. However, don’t underestimate how much women need honesty from men. If you want to spend an evening not with her but with your friends, tell her that. Don’t make up stupid excuses and stories about how much work you have to do. Any woman knows how to tell the truth from lies, no matter how insignificant it may seem to you. Always tell the truth.

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If you still think of women as the weak half of humanity, then you know absolutely nothing about them, and this point is for you. They’re able to create beautiful things and inspire. They come up with grandiose ideas and implement them. They can make men happy. Women know their own value and expect the same from you. Don’t forget to repeat more often how much you appreciate them and what they really mean to you. You’ll see happiness right around the corner.

But the main thing is…

At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what you look like or what type of car you drive. The main thing is how you make a woman feel around you.

Via: Bright Side