A Private Investigator Tells About 4 Clear Signs That Your Husband Is Cheating on You

David King, the managing director of Lipstick Investigations, told about the most popular signs of cheating husbands. According to him, women who come to private investigators are right in 80% of all cases. This is because they can spot details that their husbands don’t care about.

Sign #1

The first and most prominent sign is when your husband or boyfriend starts caring about himself much more than he used to: he has a new cologne, a new haircut, a new clothing style. If you feel that he doesn’t want to spend a lot of time with you, then it’s very likely that your husband is cheating on you.

Sign #2

If a man sets a password on his smartphone, his tablet, or his computer without any good reason, it might be a worrying sign. Well, of course, if you unceremoniously look through his folders and monitor all his calls, then there is probably nothing strange about setting a password. He just needs some private space.

However, if your relationship was full of trust and then he set passwords on all of his devices, he probably has something to hide.

Sign #3

The next behavior of someone who cheats is anger and aggression. Every time his phone rings, he gets up and leaves the room to talk on the phone. Every question you ask, even the simplest one, can lead to an argument. It looks like he wants a reason for a conflict. And after you talk about it, he leaves the apartment to “get some fresh air.”

In fact, in this situation, a man is trying to stop feeling guilty. He is trying to justify his actions by blaming you.

Sign #4

The last sign that your man is unfaithful is his wish to leave home without you. If your husband used to invite you to the movies and restaurants or suggested meeting with friends or going out of town but now he is looking for a reason to go somewhere without you, it’s a worrying signal.

The same goes for situations where your husband used to like being home and now has regular meetings with someone. It’s very likely that your husband has found someone new, and you don’t know about it yet.

An important thing you must remember:

Separately, these signals might not mean anything. However, if you notice a few of them, you shouldn’t ignore them. Do you think we should add something else to the list?

Via: BrightSide

7 Signs That You’re Destroying Your Relationship

When something goes wrong in our relationships, we tend to blame our partner. But it takes two to build them, and it’s impossible for just one half to always be guilty of everything.

We at Bright Side think you should take note of these 7 signs that something’s not right in your relationship. So the one destroying it is you, if…

You’re addicted to gadgets

If you spend most of your free time on your smartphone, it can be an addiction, and one that is harmful to your relationship, as found by scientists from the University of Arizona. Try switching to something else, like reading a book or making plans. Use special apps to control your time on the Web (such as Rescue Time).

You’re unable to set priorities

If you have a really busy schedule that doesn’t include a personal life, just set it as important on your list of priorities. You can use special planning apps too, like Any.do (iOS, Android).

There’s also the 2/2/2 method that’ll help save romance: go on a date with your loved one once every 2 weeks, go somewhere for a weekend once every 2 months, and go on vacation together every 2 years.

You don’t show support

A simple “thank you” seems so trivial that many forget to say it altogether. However, if your loved one does something for you, don’t take it for granted. Everyone needs a kind word, so thank your partner for simple things, and do it regularly.

You talk formally

Loving people talk to each other openly and sincerely. Share your emotions and details of your day, and listen to each other. Think of nontrivial questions. Instead of “How was your day?“ try ”What was the most interesting part of today?“ or “What made you laugh today?”

If something about your partner upsets you, say it without reproach using ”me“-messages. It’s not ”Don’t you dare say that!” It’s “Your words upset me.”

You get angry at trifles

Don’t try to remake your loved one. Their peculiar features are what you love them for. Better make them see the results of their actions for themselves. If your husband scatters his socks everywhere, tell him they’ll only get into the laundry from a particular place. When he runs out of socks, no words will be necessary.

You’re unable to negotiate

Concentrate on solving problems together. Try to discuss the problem before it reaches boiling point. When you’re having an important talk, touch your partner to make them comfortable. And remember the rule of one problem, one talk.

During a fight, leave the room, even just for half a minute. When you’ve calmed down a bit, the talk will become more productive.

You have no trust

If you want a warm and close relationship, learn to believe your loved one is honest with you. Don’t demand reports of where they’ve been without you, and don’t look through their phone and email. Unjustified suspicion might make your partner feel compelled to do what they’re being suspected of. Concentrate on the good.

Via: BrightSide

 

 

10 Foods to avoid for the flat belly you’ve always dreamed of

We all want to have a flat stomach, but do you know that abdominal fat is the most difficult to deal with? You work out, you try to adopt healthy diet habits, but you don’t see visible results in the mirror. Stubborn belly fat is still there, and it seems that it doesn’t plan to go anywhere.

If this sounds familiar to you, we want you to know more about the foods that stand in the way of the perfect belly you’ve always wanted.

1. Avoid alcoholic beverages

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Some alcoholic drinks are rich in calories, but calories are not the main factor here. Alcohol consumption increases your appetite and confuses the part of your brain that is responsible for the feeling of fullness. So no matter how full you are, when you go for a bottle of beer you usually accompany it with a snack, don’t you?

2. Give up soft drinks

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We hear this all the time, but it’s still so hard to give up this habit. But if you really want to get rid of abdominal fat, you should stop drinking soft drinks. Even those low-calorie drinks slow down your metabolism and stimulate your body to gain fat.

3. Don’t buy chewing gum

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When you chew gum, your brain and stomach receive signals that prepare them for an incoming meal. Plus, gum triggers the overproduction of stomach acid, and, as a result, you feel hungry.

4. Adopt a low-sodium diet

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Remember: sugar and salt should be limited to small amounts, especially if you suffer from high blood pressure. Not only are high-sodium foods harmful to your health but they also retain fluids which prevent you from losing belly fat effectively.

5. Say goodbye to fast food

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It’s no secret that fast food contains too many calories that may bring various health problems, but if that’s not convincing enough for you to give up this food, just remember that it’s definitely responsible for your belly that you want to get rid of so badly.

6. Forget about mayonnaise

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If you’re a fan of mayonnaise and mayonnaise-based salads, then you should know that this dressing contains at least 80% fat. The best option is to substitute mayo for vegetable puree or natural tomato paste.

7. Say “No” to French fries

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As much as you love this food, you should give it up as soon as possible. Fried potatoes, just like any other fried foods, work like a sponge that absorbs saturated fats. Believe it or not, but saturated fats can actually affect brain function so that it can’t think clearly about how much weight you’re gaining at the moment. As a result, you can eat up to 30 potatoes without noticing it.

8. No more ice cream

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This one is pretty obvious, isn’t it? Foods rich in sugar inevitably turn into abdominal fat, which is the most harmful fat in your body.

9. Don’t eat foods that make you bloat

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Even the skinniest people can have rather visible belly outlines due to foods that provoke intestinal gases or an upset stomach. If this is an issue for you, just avoid such foods and think of a good workout routine that will speed up your digestion.

10. Don’t fall for those “sugar-free” products

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Foods that contain sugar substitutes such as polyalcohols, for example, are only effective for people with diabetes. These sugar-free products still contribute to the size of your abdomen.

Via: Trendingpulse.com

10 Secret Fears 90% of Men Never Talk About

Is it even possible that men can have secret fears? They look so strong and decisive! “No way!” is what many women would say. However, this is just another stereotype imposed by society.

We at Bright Side are against stereotypes. That’s why today we will tell you about 10 things that actually worry most men.

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From a very young age, women are taught to think their body should be ideal all the time. They think they should work out constantly and follow a diet. There are no such stereotypes about men, but this doesn’t mean they don’t worry about their physical shape or compare it with well-built men in magazines. Otherwise, why would men spend so much time in the gym? Their worst fear is somebody mentioning their beer belly.

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Money is one of the most popular reasons why men worry. They are brought up as future breadwinners. A man might even not have a girlfriend, but they worry about their financial situation anyway because they think that the most necessary thing for a relationship is money. However, care and attention are much more important for women. If we are wrong, and what really matters for a girl is money, then she is not worth your time.

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How can a man not worry if one of the main features of “an ideal man” is being tall? If women cared about height less, then guys who are not that tall would have more chances. Size doesn’t matter if it’s not about the size of his heart.

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Men’s jealousy is not usually as obvious as women’s, however, it hurts their self-esteem just as much. Your partner might show no signs of being worried when you tell him about a male colleague with a wonderful sense of humor. But you should know this: he worries a lot, and he compares himself with a potential competitor. To wipe out his fear, you should talk to him honestly and explain that there is absolutely no threat.

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The image of a macho man is every man’s worst nightmare because it makes them try to look like experienced lovers and lie about the number of ex-girlfriends they had. In fact, they are just as afraid of doing something wrong as women are. Support and honesty in all things about your relationship will help you feel more confident.

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Hair on the body and the head is always a problem for men. A little amount of hair on the body — what if it doesn’t look macho enough? Too much hair — is it too scary or too messy? And being bald is often the worst thing that can happen. You might make things worse by mentioning these problems to your partner.

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“I’m on a diet.” Men hear these words from women very often. But if a man mentions a diet, it might sound strange. However, men also care about their bodies and about the foods they eat. Everyone wants to be healthy and in good shape. It’s just that men talk about this way less often.

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How many articles have been written in women’s magazines about saving relationships? However, if men start discussing this, women might think it’s strange. Of course, men are “brutal,” so they shouldn’t worry about little things like relationships, right? But men also want everything to be okay, so let them worry.

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If a woman had more partners than a man before they met, then the man will have to compete with them. Besides, your partner might also worry about being less experienced than you. The most important thing is to explain to him that the past is in the past, and there is nothing to worry about.

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“Don’t cry! You are a man!” This is what men always heard as children. Their parents wanted to make them strong and able to protect their families, but we think that’s not such a good idea. They are scared of looking weak, of showing their true emotions. Don’t add fuel to the fire, and don’t talk about how a man is SUPPOSED to handle difficulties. He owes nothing to anyone.

Via: BrightSide

 

 

 

Why Women Leave Men They Love: What Every Man Needs To Know

As a marriage counsellor working with men and women in relationship crisis, I help clients navigate numerous issues. While many situations are complex, there’s one profoundly simple truth that men need to know: Women leave men they love.

They feel terrible about it. It tears their heart out of them. But they do it. They rally their courage and their resources and they leave. Women leave men with whom they have children, homes and lives.

Women leave for many reasons, but there’s one reason in particular that haunts me, one that I want men to understand: Women leave because their man is not present. He’s working, golfing, gaming, watching TV, fishing…the list is long. These aren’t bad men. They’re good men. They’re good fathers. They support their family. They’re nice, likeable. But they take their wife for granted. They’re not present.
Women in my office tell me: “Someone could come and sweep me off my feet, right out from under my husband.” Sometimes the realization scares them. Sometimes it makes them cry.

To the Guy Who Stopped Appreciating the Girl He Loves.

Men, I’m not saying this is right or wrong. I’m telling you what I see. You can get as angry, hurt or indignant as you want. Your wife is not your property. She does not owe you her soul. You earn it. Day by day, moment after moment. You win her over first and foremost with your presence, your aliveness. She needs to feel it. She wants to talk to you about what matters to her and to feel that you’re listening to her. Not nodding politely. Not placating. Definitely not playing devil’s advocate.

 

She wants you to feel her. She doesn’t want absent-minded groping or quick sex. She wants to feel your passion. Can you feel your passion? Can you show her? Not just your passion for her or for sex; your passion for being alive. Do you have it? It’s the most attractive thing you possess. If you’ve lost it, what’s the reason? Where did it go? Find out. Find it. If you never discovered it, you are living on borrowed time.
If you think you’re present with your wife, try listening to her. Does your mind wander? Notice. When you look at her, how deeply do you see her? Look again, look deeper. Meet her gaze and keep it for longer than usual, longer than what’s comfortable. If she asks what you’re doing, tell her: “I’m looking into you. I want to see you deeply. I’m curious about who you are. After all these years I still want to know who you are, every day.” But only say it if you mean it, if you know it’s true.
Touch her with your full attention. Before you put your hand on her, notice the sensation in your hand. Notice what happens the moment you make contact. What happens in your body? What do you feel? Notice the most subtle sensations and emotions. (This is sometimes described as mindfulness.) Tell her everything you’re noticing, moment after moment.
Learn about Meeting The Love Of Your Life At The Wrong Time.

But you’re busy. You don’t have time for all this. How about five minutes? Five minutes a day. Will you commit to that? I’m not talking about extravagant dinners or date nights (although these are fine too). I’m talking about five minutes a day to be completely present with the woman you share your life with. To be completely open– listening and seeing without judgement. Will you do that? I bet once you start, once you get a taste, you won’t want to stop.

Via: Trending Pulse

Signs He’s Only With You For The Sex

The dating world is and always will be confusing.  It’s difficult to understand intentions, flirting techniques, emotions, and intentions—only mentioned again because it’s so important—especially when your partner is only interested in one thing: getting laid.  How do you navigate a “relationship” if he’s only with you for the nookie?  Here are 15 telling signs he’s only with you for the sex. Are there any signs we missed? Let us know in the comments!

No cuddling allowed. If he’s quick to run to the bathroom or roll over to the other side of the bed after doing the dirty deed, then he’s avoiding intimacy. Cuddling is a great and relaxing way to just be with someone, with no one expecting any monkey business. But he’s not interested in anything but monkey business. He’s a monkey!

He makes sure you don’t leave anything at his house. Men know the game, or at least they think they do. They don’t want women leaving a hairbrush or a bottle of conditioner in the bathroom because that means you might be back someday with an intention other than sleeping with him.

He throws out the stuff you do leave at his house. If you somehow manage to get through his security system of not leaving things in his room, then he’s definitely going to throw your stuff out before you return. “What shampoo bottle?” he’ll ask, playing dumb. He knows damn well what shampoo bottle.

You never meet his friends. There’s a reason why you haven’t met or even heard of his friends—because once you meet them it becomes “serious.”

He only texts after 1 a.m. Even if he texted a little after midnight, he might be in the clear, but 1 a.m. is a designated “Let’s fall asleep together” time.

He becomes upset when you actually want to “Netflix and chill.” Putting aside two full hours of hanging out just to watch some movie you chose? What?!

He’s always trying to get into your pants. If he takes every single opportunity to participate in his favorite activity, sexual intercourse, then he’s only interested in his favorite activity.

You never sleep over at his place. Assuming you’ve ever been to his place, you definitely haven’t slept over if it’s he’s just with you for the dirty deed. His roommates might see you! His parents might call you “sweetie!” His secret wife and five children might be confused by your presence!

He only compliments the way you look. You’re more than just a clothes rack, you know. If he’s always talking about how great you look in those pants, or how nice your hair is, then it’s very possible that he doesn’t care about anything but that stuff.

He’s always “busy” when you text him something serious. If he’s always conveniently busy or “too tired to talk” then he’s doing his best to ignore your feelings without seeming like he’s ignoring his feelings.

You’ve never been on a real date. If he considers you his boyfriend, then he’d take you out somewhere. Ordering pizza doesn’t count, and neither does Chinese food, unfortunately.

Every conversation gets flirty and/or sexual. It’s his form of getting into your pants when he’s forced to actually talk to you. When a texting conversation suddenly gets a “So what are you wearing?” then, well…

He doesn’t really care about anything you suggest. If this is true, then lose him even if he does consider himself your boyfriend!

Foreplay doesn’t exist to him. He comes over, you greet each other, and then it’s off to the bedroom to do the thing he wants the most. Nothing romantic, not even a touch or kiss in an intimate area, no. He just wants what’s in-between your legs.

He asks you to meet up with him, only for you two to leave once you arrive. In order to trick you, he asked you to come out and meet up with him at some bar. But once you get there, you realize he’s closing his bill out and was just looking for someone to go home with, not to hang out with. And you got dressed for nothing!

 

The ONLY question to ask your boyfriend to know if he’s serious

Misled, misunderstood, misinterpreted – not the kind of things you want to hear when you get serious about someone and expect the same kind of commitment from them but these are the words they say.
In such situations, we often blame the guy for misleading us.

The whole I-loved-him-but-he-couldn’t-love–me-back phase hits us. We are so over-consumed by our own thoughts of the rejection we have received that we are unable to see the whole situation as an unbiased third party. Now, I know it is easier said than done but that’s the challenge of every relationship in our lives. We have got to see things from the other person’s point of view.

 

No one person can be entirely correct and the other a 100% wrong. They can’t really mislead you if you, yourself, want to be misled in a certain direction because that’s actually what you really want from them.
I know what it is like because I have faced that, a relationship I gave my everything to ended on a phone call.

A two minute long call and that was it, it was the end of a 3 year old long relationship. Where you might be thinking he broke up with me, it was actually the other way round and here is why.

I had been treated badly for a long time, there were moments of laughter and happiness too but they only lasted for a few seconds. We would fight over the weirdest things. I had always been the kind who would never scream, couldn’t even utter a simple ‘shut up’ or a ‘leave me alone’. I kept on compromising till I couldn’t bend. He kept on asking me to change from the way I talked to the kind of music I liked, from the way I managed my work to the kind of shows I watched. I tried as much as I could but obviously couldn’t match his expectations. Then one day, I found out he was cheating on me with multiple women. I didn’t shed a tear over him but a huge realization hit me. The way he was treating me, they were all tell signs of what I meant to him, what this relationship meant to him. I didn’t want to acknowledge those tell signs so I turned a blind eye towards them all and chose to suffer!

I realized it wasn’t him, it was me who chose to be treated like that and from then on I have decided on one thing – get things straight before you get too serious. Ask them this one simple question and you’ll know.

Question: WHERE DO YOU SEE US GOING?

This is the only question, the answer will solve any confusion that you have regarding the relationship. The key is to look beyond what he says, it is to look deep into his nature and his reaction to the question.
Remember, both are not too good for you, if he replies over enthusiastically or if he is too unsure about the future.

People who make great promises and fail to deliver are the kind that will make you feel misled, their over-enthusiasm will make you think they are in it for life where actually, their answer was solely based on the way they felt about you there and then. There and then, when the relationship is in its initial honeymoon phase. Such people can’t really look towards their future. They will promise you the moon and the stars but won’t be able to deliver even a simple thing for you from the mart!

Slap yourself out of the illusion they create and the delusion you create for yourself. Someone who is too unsure might still have greater chances to get serious in the relationship, relatively. For someone unsure, you can’t really blame them when they call it quits because they never committed themselves, remember? So why put yourself in an uncertain situation where you have no idea if you will be single the next day or not?

Most importantly, what are the vibes that you get from this person, look beyond his words. What has he been like in his past relationships, do you see a common trend? Trust me, your brain screams at you when it warns you of the tornado that’s about to hit you.

Listen to your head and feel what your heart tells you, keep a balance of both and you will know instantly if he is in it as seriously as you are.

Via: RealTalk